In Israel, are there many love affairs (or even marriages ) between Jewish and non-Jewish people ?
In the past, I was in love with a Jewish girl, but she politely rejected me…So I just wonder if many girls in Israel have also prejudices towards non-Jewish men, particullarly towards Turkishmen…
Tagged with: girls • israel • jewish girl • jewish men • love • prejudices
Filed under: love israel
Well, my husband wasn’t Jewish when we got married some 10 years ago…
For my family it was a small shock when I told them, that I am going to marry a Spanish and Catholic man, but finally they calmed down and accepted my decision.
As I am not living in Israel, it is not that strange, as many of my friends have non-Jewish partners.
I had to cope here in Spain with many people, who tried to convince me to convert into a “good Christian”.
But they all gave up sooner or later.
Neither my family nor me tried to convert my husband into Judaism; it is his very own decision. First I thought, that he simply is interested in my religion and I found it amusing somehow. Then, I realized, that it was really more than interest and finally he converted 3 years ago.
Now his family was completely shocked…
Well, what I want to say, is that you have to be very open minded if you start a relationship with somebody who has a different religion than yours and be able to respect the other persons beliefs and traditions.
Many people are not able to do so and the relationship ends with thousands of tears.
A good friend of my husband has fallen desperately in love with a girl from El Aiun in Sahara and the only way to be able to marry her was converting into Islam.
He converted, although he didn’t believe in it… I think this is very sad; you shouldn’t change your beliefs like a jacket.
Nobody should convert without believing.
Regarding love affairs, well, I think there are always many more love affairs than marriages, as not many of these relation ships finally turn into marriage.
Many people are afraid to confront with their families and break with the traditions or they think, that they might not been accepted by their in-laws or looked down on by society…
It’s a very personal decision.
But it’s a pity that some people always think, that they have the right to judge you for something so beautiful called “love”….
I lived in Israel a few years back and knew many couples where one person was Jewish and the other wasn’t.
I’m sure it happens quite a lot. As for Turkish men… I’ve only ever met a few, but they were lovely…!
yeah man, many, you’d be surprised (I hope not) to hear actually that some muslims mary jews and the opposite too,(this has been for decades) and you know what they say sometimes the differences make life more interesting if both people are open minded and talk they can overcome anything, even overcome closed minded family members from both sides. BTW I’m not going to say that it’s better to live with thoses huge differences, I bilieve it’s very hard, but what can you do love is the truth and I’d rather have love, and live with a crippled, blind, and deaf budhist women then to live with someone I don’t love.
and you have to remember there are a lot of secular Jews/Muslims which live life as they see without practicing religion or taking life decisions by it.
same goes for christian and jews and christian and muslims, and the rest too.
Since Israel is 78% Jewish, it is statistically unlikely that a Jewess would marry a non-Jew though it has been known to happen. Many Jews will only marry other Jews in order to build a Jewish family, though that is a sentiment that decreases in frequency with the increasing secularization of Israeli Jews. Of those who have no qualms about marrying a non-Jew, nearly all would not be biased against any particular group.
According to the Torah Jews are not allowed to marry Gentiles (non-jews). You can’t blame her because she is following her religion. Just like Muslim women who can’t marry non Muslim men. I read that in the 613 commandments of the Torah.
Not to marry non-Jews Deut. 7:3
Peace
No, probably not! Jews stick to their own kind.
I have never heard of any kind of prejudice as you speak. As to the numbers of inter-faith relationships in Israel I would say if the number is high or low would depend on your point of view as to how high or low such a number should be.
Good Luck!!!
Controversy over intermarriage
According to the National Jewish Population Survey 2000-01, 47% of marriages involving Jews in the United States between 1996 and 2001 were intermarriages. Rates of intermarriage have increased in other countries in the Diaspora as well. Jewish leaders in different branches generally agree that possible assimilation is a crisis, but they differ on the proper response to intermarriage.
* All branches of Orthodox Judaism refuse to accept any validity or legitimacy of intermarriages.
* Conservative Judaism, does not sanction intermarriage, but encourages acceptance of the non-Jewish spouse within the family, hoping that such acceptance will lead to conversion.
* Reform Judaism and Reconstructionist Judaism do not accept the Jewish Law as binding, so technically they do not have firm rules against intermarriage. Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis are free to take their own approach to performing marriages between a Jewish and Non-Jewish partner. Many seek agreement from the couple that the children will be raised as Jewish.
Civil versus religious marriages, and inter-faith marriages
There is an ongoing debate about inter-faith marriage in the Jewish community. Orthodox Judaism argues from the biblical prohibition on the ancient Israelites against permitting their children to marry the children of gentiles (Deuteronomy 7:3); Moses warns that on transgression, their children will follow other gods, and they themselves will consequently be destroyed. Some traditionalists speak metaphorically of intermarriage in the modern era as a "Silent Holocaust." Some modernists see inter-faith marriages as a contribution to a multicultural society that enriches lives. Children from intermarriages identify as Jewish significantly less frequently than children of marriages with two Jewish partners.
The traditional Jewish concept of marriage is based on kiddushin (lit. "sanctification"). The wife is publicly sanctified to the husband in an exclusive relationship, forbidding her to all other men. The traditional rules regarding such sanctification are, by definition, for a relationship between Jews. The Jewish declaration of marriage includes the phrase that the marriage is being carried out by the laws of Moses and Israel; such a declaration has no meaning for a marriage ceremony between a Jew and a Gentile. It is partly on this basis that most rabbis refuse to conduct interfaith weddings. Although intermarriage is becoming more common place thus making children born from interfaith families very acclimated to both Jewish and Christian traditions having a parent from one or the other side.
All major branches of Judaism are opposed to intermarriage. However, the Leadership Council of Conservative Judaism has a more nuanced understanding of this issue than Orthodoxy. In a press release it has stated that "In the past, intermarriage…was viewed as an act of rebellion, a rejection of Judaism. Jews who intermarried were essentially excommunicated. But now, intermarriage is often the result of living in an open society….If our children end up marrying non-Jews, we should not reject them. We should continue to give our love and by that retain a measure of influence in their lives, Jewish and otherwise. Life consists of constant growth and our adult children may yet reach a stage when Judaism has new meaning for them. However, the marriage between a Jew and non-Jew is not a celebration for the Jewish community. We therefore reach out to the couple with the hope that the non-Jewish partner will move closer to Judaism and ultimately choose to convert. Since we know that over 70 percent of children of intermarried couples are not being raised as Jews…we want to encourage the Jewish partner to maintain his/her Jewish identity, and raise their children as Jews."
Reform and Reconstructionist Judaism do not accept the Halakha (Rabbinical Jewish law) as normative, so the halachic prohibition against it is not per se controlling. Still, the great majority of Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis will not officiate at a marriage between a Jew and a Gentile, no matter the circumstance.
There is a difference between a religious Jewish marriage and the secular marriage. In the United States (and many other countries), when a rabbi officiates at a wedding, it is de facto a legal wedding by the law of the United States, as well; therefore, a rabbi cannot officiate for you without a civil license. This is the secular (civil) marriage. However, Kiddushin is a ceremony that can only take place between two Jews. Many rabbis will not officiate at a wedding between a Jew and a Gentile because it is outside the realm of traditional Jewish law and custom. A number of independent, interfaith officiates groups have surfaced which routinely perform Jewish/non-Jewish interfaith marriages.
Occasionally, a Jew marries a non-Jew who is an ethical monotheist; one who believes in God as understood by Judaism, and rejects non-Jewish theologies. Rabbi Steven Greenberg has made the controversial proposal that in these cases the non-Jewish partner be considered a Ger Toshav, a biblical term for resident alien, denoting someone who is not Jewish, but who lives within the Jewish community and shares many of the accompanying responsibilities and privileges.
A number of interfaith Jewish/non-Jewish couples and families who wish to maintain their separate faith affiliations and identities have found a tolerant home within Unitarian Universalism, which claims a relatively high number of Jewish interfaith families in its membership rolls. Although the UU faith was rooted in liberal Christianity, it evolved to become an inter-spiritual, interfaith denomination. Several Jewish organizations exist within the UUA community, such as Unitarian Universalists for Jewish Awareness and Jewish Voices in Unitarian Universalism, which seek to maintain and nurture a strong Jewish presence within the Association. Despite the existence of these organizations and sub-groups, the normative Jewish outlook on this phenomenon would be that the formerly Jewish individuals who affiliate with Unitarian Universalism are apostates to another faith.